Anytime we give love, feel love, say "I love You" with an expectation of any return what-so-ever, that love becomes conditional. Learning to understand "how we love" will help us change "the way" we love and "where" that love originates from. Think about specific times you told/tell people (or things) that you love them. Think about the "feeling" attached or created when you "love". The realization is HUGE! The pure heart gives love freely. Without an expectation of any return. The ego gives love, much of the time not even realizing it, needing something back. So lets explore some of those "needs" or expectations. Think of a person that you tell "I love you" to. Now, pay attention to your body & your thoughts as you think about that person and saying I love you. (This works well with those you "love" and "don't love as much".)
Some people "love" because they "need" to. It makes them feel good. They need to hear "I love you" so they tell everyone to "keep it coming back". Some "love" out of obligation, because they feel it is expected or appropriate. Some people "love" in order to gain something. Anytime we are "loving" out of obligation, fear, guilt, or feeding a lack or need, it is not unconditional. We are loving with an expectation for a return. Unconditional love does not have to be spoken. It is given because the true heart feels love for absolutely everything WITHOUT a need for a return. It is given and let go. It is part of our essence, and when we become unconditional love, we emit it in every fiber of our being. We don't ask for anything in return or get disappointed (that requires expectation), we radiate it because we are it. Unconditional love is a state of being. And when we come to that state of being, we no longer NEED to say it. We ARE it. We are one and in that place of "oneness", we experience love for everything simultaneously as one. Love is energy. When we are in a state of transmitting at a frequency of love, everyone & everything that is WE receives & feels that energy that is transmitted without a word ever needing to be spoken. If someone is operating at a vibrational frequency of conditional love, what are they attracting in return? In a world of separation, we seek/need love from an outside source. In a place of oneness, we are love and no longer seek it. We are love. Everything is growth... the good, bad, ugly. Most don't think they are "growing" unless it is positive. Actually, the most growth happens in the hardest of situations. The easy ones are more comfortable, but don't provide as much for us to learn from, much of the time. Every experience IS growth, it's just how we grow from it, at that moment. Learning to embrace the "tough & rough" times, the really uncomfortable ones, and to actually "step back" and "see" them as they progress, gives us a totally different view. To become an observer, instead of an active participant responding out of emotion, we can see things we otherwise would not see. We understand in a "larger picture" kind of way. We see that it is not "all about us". Wow, now that is a blow to the ego! That gives us awareness. Awareness provides us with a new opportunity to open the door for healing. Awareness opens the door for a different response. Then once we are aware, things then become a choice. And choice is powerful. To be able to choose, where as in the past, we "felt" we didn't have a choice, became the victim, and participated in that experience that we now have the ability to heal within ourselves. Awareness is very powerful when we have never had awareness before. So taking our power back is one of the first steps we must accomplish when we gave it away unknowingly before. With awareness, also comes responsibility. Here is another one we have a problem with. Because with responsibility, our logic wants to assign blame, fault, act guilty, etc. That is another whole ballgame, which is taking responsibility for what is and not placing blame/fault or feeling guilty. We do NOT have to have inner conflict. That too is a choice. We can choose to entertain it, to keep it going, to feed it. Or we can not give it power, strength or give in. We can choose happiness & love over conflict & low-vibrational feelings/experiences. Learning how is part of the entire process of healing. We know the answers we seek when we tap into our heart. It is when our rational mind does not "like" the answer it gets, that it starts to "find" another answer. Here is where we get "monkey brain". Here is where the conflict is created. Anytime our rational mind tries to override our hearts, we "suffer" conflict internally. Both in our bodies & our minds. Our rational mind also likes to try to view all sides of something, to predict the best outcome if a certain decision is made. It wants to "control" how things end up. It wants to know the ending based upon the rational decisions it entertains. It is scared of being "hurt". We must release the attachment to any outcome if we are to make a true decision from our heart. The funny thing, is when we can learn to release the need to know the ending, the need to control another person's response with our own actions, release our attachment to any outcome,, then we learn to make heart centered decisions and things begin to just "flow". Resistance falls away. Our bodies start to relax, as all of that "tension" has to be stored somewhere. When we have an attachment to an outcome, we are trying to make a conditional decision. "If I do this, then I need this to happen".... how can we operate from an "unconditional" place of love & healing, IF we are putting condition on anyone or anything for how we expect things to be? The heart has no expectation or condition on what it does. It does freely. The hard part is making that choice.... the head or the heart? If we choose head (intellect/ego/rational mind), we can continue to spin in circles or deal with "consequences" later of a choice made out of condition. If we choose heart, we do so willingly, without condition. Herein lies the ability to open the door for healing, for everyone involved. Because at that moment, we are making a conscious decision, with full awareness. This is where we remove the "attachment to an outcome" and make a decision that is for best & highest good for all concerned. In that moment, we can be responsible and tell our intellect to tame itself, that this isn't about it. A decision for best & highest good comes from the heart. At that moment, we have to stop & talk to our heart. Our heart will always deliver the answer out of love. Our reasoning, rational mind will want to disect it, pick it apart, understand it and tell us what we have to do, especially if "it" feels we need protecting. Our intellect/ego/rational mind will then begin the arguments that we have in our heads when we don't listen to our hearts. Our ego will respond with anger. "Fight back, protect, blame someone, make the PERFECT decision, be perfect" and so on... our ego is also the one that can't stand to cry. The ego says this is weak, or harmful or "hurts". The heart knows it is totally necessary and jumps at the chance to LET IT GO. The mind is the one that causes our bodies to tense, hold on, hold on, don't let it out... noooooooo, it will hurt! So what? When we allow it to come up in a way that is just a release, without threat to another or self, it doesn't hurt as bad as we pictured. Oddly, those things we saw as devastating, come up & leave.... it is our intellect/ego/rational mind that tries to suppress it out of fear of the experience. The heart doesn't need to hold on to "that". It wants to let go. We do that in "protection" of what we perceive as a threat. The only threat is our rational mind when it is in competition with the heart. Awareness is not a defense mechanism, if it is to help us. The purpose is not to say flippantly "oh that is THEIR issue, because that is their response. It is not for dismissing the other person's response, it is for us to look at the entire exchange to see how we can open the door for all parties to heal. Not just self. This takes practice, as it is almost the opposite extreme of "I am to blame for everything"... once we "learn" awareness, if we don't utilize it to help everyone to heal, then we shift responsibility off ourselves and just "blame" the other person. We actually have gone to the extreme of NOT taking responsibility, by placing it on another outside ourselves. The goal is to look at the whole; to look at the bigger picture. Awareness should be expanded to include everything. Otherwise we are still "living" in a tunnel and are missing the reason for the reason that entire exchange occurred to start with. Healing is not about just "self", but the "WE" as one. What we do to another we are doing to ourselves. What we do to ourselves, we are doing to another. We are one. What we do period affects "WE" as a whole. From the perspective of the Universal Heart, decisions are made out of a pure love, that always acts (not reacts) for best & highest good of the "all". The heart does not think, it just knows. The key is learning to listen to & trust our hearts in order to help facilitate healing on every level. Not just for the I. We start with "I/me/my" to graduate to "WE". It is a "step" process. Heal our hearts so that we can help others heal theirs, and in turn we heal together. Namaste' 16 months ago I "received" a huge download of information for days at a time. I would write & write & write all of this scribble and words, that at the time, I didn't understand one bit. I just knew to write. Recently, the same information has come "back around". I don't experience the same type of downloads as before, as I am "open" all of the time now to receive. Then, I had just experienced my Kundalini awakening an a whole range of experiences that I only understood much later as I looked back. Amongst all of the writings, there are a few things that stand out & never go away. The others I have to go back and read as they were not as pivotal (at that moment), but are coming to make sense now. "Lightworkers Unite"... came through & at the time I was like, what is this? Because I built websites, I took it as a domain I was to go purchase (I had gotten domain names several times, and actually this one, Transcending Consciousness, was received in one of those downloads). I have always been a "networker". I "knew" that somehow I was to network/unite Lightworkers. Now at that time, I barely had ever heard of a lightworker, much less thought I'd ever be one. I had not even ever heard the word "Metaphysics" and now I am working on my Master's Degree in Metaphysics (that is a whole other story!). I did not know why I wrote the words "Divine" or "Vessel"... was it a boat? (yeah laugh!)... little did I know or understand. I "downloaded" an entire business plan overnight of how all of this was going to happen. All of the "people" that would be brought together, the purpose, their functions, everything. Now it is time for me to go back to those journals & see what else I "didn't understand then" that so totally makes sense now. Showering recently I got "go read the journals"... again, I got it a few days ago. So, I guess this weekend I will be re-reading those journals to see what all I "received" then and what it is now that I "need" to remember. So, one of my functions is to unite lightworkers... which is why I spend much of my days helping post & repost love & happiness & link all of these sites... for I know there is a reason, the difference now is I don't NEED to understand the reason... I just know to follow what I receive and it will transpire exactly as it is supposed to, how it is supposed to, when it is supposed to.. all I have to do is be open to receive & see it when it does! I speak from the I perspective in this one for a reason. Death of the ego can be the most beautiful blessing in disguise. Going through it, well it was "torture" and there were times that I was not sure I was going to "make it". It was probably one of the most grueling things I have ever experienced in this physical world. It created more pain & chaos than anything outside of me could ever have accomplished. It was a stubborn little bugger. It cried, it screamed, it called me names, it fought, it threatened, it created addictions, it said I wasn't good enough, that others were not trust worthy, that they betrayed, lied, and that I needed to protect myself at all costs. The biggest threat? My heart. And then... it happened. It gave in. It quietened down. It tucked itself down in a little itty bitty corner of my mind and said "I will be here if you need me, but I see you don't really need me anymore. I won't leave, just in case, but I won't interfere unless you allow me to". Now, I am amazed at how quiet it can be. Does it "try" every now & then to sneak out of it's little corner? Yep, but not for long. I recognize it and say nope, you are not necessary and it retreats to hide in silence. For I now have my heart, the thing that I didn't know how to truly access for this entire physical life until maybe the last few years. Yes, I have had moments, periods, where it ruled. But never in peace. Now, it has peace. It has grown to lead the way, without any need of assistance for protection. For it has purity, truth, honesty, integrity and most of all LOVE. It radiates bigger than my ego ever thought of doing. It can't be penetrated by low-vibrational frequencies, as it operates at such a high frequency at all times. It can be met with anger, judgement, dishonesty and it sees these things as for what they are. Painful fears that need love too. And through that, I appreciate and embrace every opportunity that arises to "remember" my little ego tucked away in it's quiet little place, for what it was... an invaluable learning experience that was necessary for me to find my heart. Radiating Love to you all! I find the smallest differences now. I "see" the words... "sending you love".... "sending you light"... sending you "healing"... whatever.... and I realize there is nothing to "send" anywhere. That would anticipate that there is separation between me & you. As I have "become" love, I don't need to "send" love. I AM love. By being love, I now SHARE love with everyone & everything. With no separation of I or you, I can't send you anything. By being love, WE are love and you already receive that simultaneously. Now I just close my eyes and strengthen the connection that WE are and radiate as bright as possible to pull you back into WE. When WE are again "there" as one, we are love. It is only through separation that one has a hard time connecting to that love that we are. Words technically only have the energy we put into them. Words are just words... I "hear" them now, but no longer hear the words. I now hear the frequency of the emotion attached to the words. Words mean absolutely nothing until we charge them with an emotion. Some people are better at charging with a different intention than what the actual word is normally understood to mean. This was a HUGE one for me to learn to "get". That is where many get their confusion. They hear a word and wonder why they don't feel "right" around a person... the words they are saying are "right"... but the feeling they are getting doesn't match up. This is where we find truth in those situations, but first we have to learn to trust our intuitive senses. Our logic can't understand such a thing. It will work to keep us confused. This is why I sit with my eyes closed when people talk. I "feel" what they say. And it's not the words coming out, but yet the vibrational frequency that they are transmitting. This is an amazing thing to come to learn. But we have to listen. Truly listen. And more importantly, we have to learn to "trust". Now, on another note, here in my blog, I use "words" as descriptives. This is for the sake of just describing what others have come to understand (i.e. angry, sad, pain, lonely, hurt, betrayal, trust, a;; low-vibrational energy, etc.) It is also true for high-vibrational "words" such as happy, content, peace, love, etc. In essence, they are all of the same.. either high or low vibrations, just to different degrees. I also use "I" to describe my physical earthly self... then I "we" or "one" to describe that understanding of no-separation, of oneness... that place of total understanding and where I/he/she/they/me... doesn't exist... so in order to avoid confusion, I am posting this, so when I write from this point on, maybe it will help a little. Most view emotional pain as a bad thing. It's only bad if we perceive it to be. Emotional pain causes the heart to open. WE don't have control. We are forced to "feel", whether we "like" it or not. This actually is a very good thing, if viewed from a higher perspective. It is very common, more often than not, to walk around going "oh, yes, I love this/that/them, etc.". It becomes such routine, a habit, that the true feeling, the deep down feeling, the one that affects our entire body, rarely is ever accessed. Then that "huge" event happens. Something pivotal. Something so "earth-shaking" that it causes removes our ability to "control". We have little or no control during those times. When it is a "positive" experience, we enjoy it. We relish and bask in it. We sing & dance & flitter around. But when it is a "negative" experience, we do not like it at all. We clench our bodies, fight it. It is uncomfortable, and we don't like that in this physical world. This is what we, as a human race, try to avoid. But, this is what actually opens us up to the phenomenal experience of feeling. It is there that we have compassion. It can cause us to unintentionally cause us to be kinder to others. It is there that we find the core of what is important. It is there that we are able to access our soul. I now appreciate even the "roughest" experiences. I understand them. I "see" them for the purpose intended. One, to force us to let go of something that it is time to let go of and two, to remind me us of our core heart, the one tucked way deep down inside that always needs just a bit of protection. Even when it is open and loving others, there may still be a small part that needs to feel a little discomfort to remind us of feeling the duality that is necessary in everything to keep us human. But, as we transcend, the human body/intellect/ego/reasoning mind, gets less and less prevalent. It relinquishes more & more control. As we start to exist in higher consciousness, we become much more "aware" and totally in a "knowing" that the physical mind can't comprehend. We understand that those are "physical emotions" that serve a purpose in supporting this physical body and keeping our spirit alive. The "issue" or feeling loses validity, becomes an ant from a view where everything is again bliss. Where we love & understand and release those "feelings" as just that. For when we are in "that place", everything is perfect and peaceful. Another huge realization, is that anytime "I" feel pain, that is the "I" pain. I am operating on an individual level of separation. Once I re-focus my thoughts, I an actually very easily re-merge to the "we". And in we, there is no me. If there is no me, then this "pain" is just something to use as a tool to keep me reminded of what is important. It is not that pain. That pain is a perception. It is a thought, and a thought is a choice. When I can "tap" back into that oneness of we, everything is exactly as it is meant to be at that moment. That is universal love. That is universal consciousness for me at this moment. To be so connected, that I can "see" so much more than any "physical emotion" can experience or know. I again have found my bliss. :) |
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