The ego/logical mind self sees conflict, creates resistance and needs to conquer.
The heart/soul self let's go, and gives in to the resistance and frees itself from the barriers created by the thinking mind.
For the purpose of understanding which "self" one is utilizing at any given time, one must go within and see if there is resistance or flow, conflict or ease.... the heart allows for peace through feeling the resistance, seeing it without judgement and allowing it to go. ♥ ♥ ♥