Once we become aware, we have a choice. (We always have a choice in everything). We can choose to embrace it or dismiss it and return to the physical, egoic world. For me, the latter was not an option. But I had to be open to it, let go, and allow. It meant allowing something else to be in control.
Once there is a bigger picture, the smaller picture just seems so trivial. Those victim modes we hang on to that control us because they are so devastating and catastrophic on a physical/mental level, just don't matter as much anymore, if at all. And it is not a disrespect like "it doesn't matter" but the exact opposite. We finally have total respect for self and everything else. We love everything on a whole, as one, equally and endlessly.
Now, don't get me wrong, "traumas" are not "petty" when we are experiencing them. But once we have awareness, once we have higher consciousness, everything physical that doesn't help contribute to love & healing all, has to be let go & allowed to fall away. We even "experience" things from a different perspective.
Now I can "see" things differently when it appears I need to "lose" someone or something. It's not necessarily that I "have" to lose it, but that I have to be ok with losing it. It is the attachment that is the problem for the ego. I totally understand and do my best to not resist (too much) and allow myself to let go. Only the physical ego self needs to hold on. Transcending that was exhausting, but through continual work it continued to get easier. This meant giving up total control, which is basically the part of our entire identity (especially a professed control-freak). Those around me operating on a completely physical level think I am bonkers. Who cares, as even that is someone else's perception. I know, and that is all I need ... now I need to do what I know I need to do. I am not speaking in a "who cares" egoic fashion, but one of more understanding how little these things really do matter and how much time is spent on those things that distract us from our purpose. The resistance is what creates the emotional discomfort. Removing the resistance allows for an experience with grace & ease.
Now it's about being a light to others here. Those seeking to leave the "darkness" behind will gravitate towards the light beings that resonate with their higher desire. It is up to us to widen the path for others to join us as they become ready.