Forego the confusion. We've spent the majority of this physical life in logic, in a world of self-created chaos.
Then when we start to "see" things differently, feel things differently, which creates additional internal chaos while we sort things out. This is no longer about "thinking" anything. It is a matter of feeling. But it takes time to trust what we feel. Our minds try to "override" us, warn us, "protect us" (although falsely created), and much of the time we enter into a tailspin of self-created chaos. The "monkey brain" goes rampant with never ending arguments in our heads, interfering with our concentration & sleep. Our emotions get all involved, we react and things get "worse". Insecurities kick in and we go into protection mode (this can be anything from putting up walls, shutting down, self-sabotaging, blaming another, turning to a multitude of addictions, depression, physical illness, gaining/losing weight, control issues, getting angry, the list is endless).
Only when we learn to separate ourselves from being a participant and learn to become an observer can we truly "see" a bigger picture. At that moment, awareness kicks in, time slows down, emotions subside and chaos is no longer in control of our "space".
With awareness, we now have a choice. A choice we did not have "before". It also requires taking responsibility, letting go of blame (for self & others), learning to trust, re-programming limiting and low-vibrational learned (and carried over) thought systems. We move from a state of control to one of allowing and being in the flow. We learn tools to start creating a new reality and how vibrational frequencies are absolutely everything! This process only has to be as hard as we make it on ourselves. How much we suffer can now be a choice. Technically every emotion, with awareness, can now be a choice. We do have to work through all the low-vibrational "stuff" we've held on to, but even that can be expedited and less "painful" if you will. As we clear those low-vibrational experiences from our energetic field, we make room for higher vibrations of happiness, love, compassion, kindness and so much more!
Each individual's journey is their own. We no longer receive answers outside ourselves. Everything we need now is within. The process of learning to trust ourselves is an entirely new & phenomenal journey. Feel THIS moment, as this moment is now our own creation! What do you choose to create for yourself today?