As an empath, being around others used to just drive me over the edge. I couldn't take it. Crowds, movies, public places like grocery stores... no way! Everyone else drove ME crazy... little did I know that once I shifted my focus inward, started to look at myself, my stuff, my issues, my responses, that it would all change.
Learning that others were our triggers was a foreign concept for a long time. I was like "huh"? I started to pay even more attention to others and what was going on with THEM in order to figure my own self out. A "teacher" even taught me to do this every waking moment of every day to the point of obsession. It was still easier than looking in the mirror (even though I was, and didn't understand that either).
They had pain, my heart hurt. They had ego issues, I got a migraine. They were insecure, my chakras went berzerk. I stayed so focused on them, that I became a "professional" watcher! I could tell you everything wrong with someone else. I was exceptional at knowing what was wrong in their little world. It did teach me to start paying attention to my responses, and through that I started to learn about myself. I started to see where my own pain, lack, blocks, issues were. Then I had to go inward. This started a whole new learning curve for me.
It wasn't until I realized that it had nothing to do with them. My world was my world. My issues were my issues. They were just a tool for me to learn more about me; to start to heal me. Wow, new concept. Now I had to learn to focus on myself! Jeesh... I could have skipped years of focusing on others if only....
Now, others don't matter. I can use what I feel in my body to detect subtle energy imbalances when working in a healing session or "teaching" mode with them. Otherwise, not mine to be concerned with. Wow, I had to go all the way around the world for that little tid-bit... so now I help others cut to the chase... no one cares what is up with the other person. It is all about us!