Think about specific times you told/tell people (or things) that you love them. Think about the "feeling" attached or created when you "love". The realization is HUGE!
The pure heart gives love freely. Without an expectation of any return. The ego gives love, much of the time not even realizing it, needing something back. So lets explore some of those "needs" or expectations.
Think of a person that you tell "I love you" to. Now, pay attention to your body & your thoughts as you think about that person and saying I love you. (This works well with those you "love" and "don't love as much".)
- How does your body feel? Happy, painful, guilty, manipulated, obligated, sad, free?
- What are your thoughts when you say it or think it? Are you waiting to hear it back? Do you expect ANYTHING in return? (Expectation can be a thing, a feeling, words, a gift, anything.)
Some people "love" because they "need" to. It makes them feel good. They need to hear "I love you" so they tell everyone to "keep it coming back". Some "love" out of obligation, because they feel it is expected or appropriate. Some people "love" in order to gain something. Anytime we are "loving" out of obligation, fear, guilt, or feeding a lack or need, it is not unconditional. We are loving with an expectation for a return.
Unconditional love does not have to be spoken. It is given because the true heart feels love for absolutely everything WITHOUT a need for a return. It is given and let go. It is part of our essence, and when we become unconditional love, we emit it in every fiber of our being. We don't ask for anything in return or get disappointed (that requires expectation), we radiate it because we are it.
Unconditional love is a state of being. And when we come to that state of being, we no longer NEED to say it. We ARE it. We are one and in that place of "oneness", we experience love for everything simultaneously as one.
Love is energy. When we are in a state of transmitting at a frequency of love, everyone & everything that is WE receives & feels that energy that is transmitted without a word ever needing to be spoken.
If someone is operating at a vibrational frequency of conditional love, what are they attracting in return?
In a world of separation, we seek/need love from an outside source. In a place of oneness, we are love and no longer seek it. We are love.